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The Words

When I was growing up and even now I will not say words like crap, shut up, your stupid, pissed off and so on in front of my parents. The only time I every heard my dad say the D word or Hell is if I was in super big trouble (like when I smoked in my room while I was grounded for missing curfew). I only heard him say words like that maybe a hand full of times while I growing up. I never was big on using Gods name in vein. I don't want to make my parents mad. It's a respect thing.

My kids on the other hand, wow some of the things they say in front of me, I am amazed. I usually blow it off thinking that I am just glad they don't hide much from me. I usually don't say anything to them and sometimes I will just say don't say that, but they usually say it again later anyways. I now am thinking that It is a lack of respect for them to use bad language in front of me. I don't want them to start hiding things from me, but I am ready for them to clean it up. And its not just what they say but sometimes the things they listen to on their ipods and stuff have really bad language as well. It doesn't seem to bother them that I can hear it.

A couple of days ago we were looking for a new dryer (our sensor went out the day after Christmas, great timing. Right?). We went to about 3 different stores to shop for the best prices. Brock was at work and the other four kids came with us. As we were leaving the first store something was said, I don't remember exactly what it was, something about getting out of a tight spot. We were talking about the parking spot I think and I hear Blake say "that's what she said" . I was like excuse me!!! You are 12 years old. What is that supposed to mean? " Blake, do you even know what you are saying?" " No, Mom its just a joke you say after someone else says something." Well I don't think its really very nice, really...I would have never...
Just a few minutes ago I am reading my book while the boys are playing a video game and listening to Brock's ipod and I hear the F word. He knows its on the song and its like no big deal to him. Really??...

Guess I know what I will be talking to them about tonight before we go to bed. .. It is important to me to keep pounding into their heads that as believers in Christ we MUST be set apart from the rest of the world. We are expected to live lives that point in the direction of Jesus Christ.

Col 3:8 But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these : anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.

1 Peter 2:17 Show proper respect to everyone: Love the brotherhood of believers, fear God, honor the king.

here's to my dad.

Why I am excited...

Welcome to my little blog. I'm so excited about getting started on this project. I have been feeling convicted by the Holy Spirit to start expecting more out of my kids. I guess I never realized that I was causing so much harm to my kids by just doing everything for them. When did we get to the point that we as parents decided to just do it all so that it gets done better, faster and easier? I know I am guilty of always just picking up the mess, fixing the beds, cleaning the dishes and pretty much everything else just because I don't really have time to teach the kids how to do it themselves. I really need to just de-clutter my schedule and make time to teach them. I  have been reading a book lately that says that almost 30% of college graduates move back home with their parents after they graduate. I don't want to be responsible for my kids not being able to survive in the grown up world. I will tell you that this is new for me and it is not easy. I want to use this blog to share my challenges, my failures and maybe challenge others to expect more out of their children too.

                                              
                                                                             

     Brock- he is pretty sure he knows it all.

He will be my challenge I think, because I only have a year and a half left to help him get ready to be a grown up.

                                          








                                                                      

                                        Blake- he does not like to do any work around the house.
He will run up and down a football field or basketball court or anything to do with sports, but the dumpster!?! Yeah right!! Too far to go.






                                                                        

                                 Ashley- of the 5 she will usually do what she is asked to do more often.
She has a hard time with being able to do things by herself. She feels like someone else should be in the room with her.






  Taylor- never does anything wrong, its always someone else.
She gets mad easy. Uses her outside voice all the time and is not going to do anything without a fight.

                                          



                              

   Kaylee- free spirit. Loves everyone and every animal.

Kaylee is good at getting lost in the crowd if you know what I mean. She doesn't want anyone to notice that she has not helped out at picking up and stuff. WHINE! Everyone just does anything to keep her from whining. Not a pretty sound!

These are my subjects. I will be seeking out Gods guidance as to how to raise them to be grown up that can actually be able to function in the world they will be in. It will be very hard to break bad habits. I am sure they won't like me much, but I love them enough to do whats best for them.


Gods word does say...

Proverbs 22:6 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.